Kindness conquers all…Difficulties are there all the time but choosing to deal with them with kindness makes all the difference. Peace and love are a choice; they are not accidental.
These were my thoughts as I watched the re-making of the film “A star is born” by Bradley Cooper, released in 2018.
It was surreal how accidental their first meeting was, like the stars aligning for them to meet. Though they both needed poking into it from her friend, they spoke to each other at a deeper level from the first time their eyes met. He wanted to see her natural self, beyond the fake hair, eyebrows, shadows and colours, and she did not stop from showing herself.
I loved their first interaction, just two humans warm, kind and interested from the start with no previous agenda, who let themselves just live the moment but equally knowing that this was not just something, that was SOMETHING! It was casual yet deep. He saw something in her and she trusted him. He made her believe in herself to take the leap that would have been very unlikely had she not met him.
“Look, talent comes everywhere. Everybody’s talented, f***ing everyone in this bar is talented at one thing or another. But having something to say and a way to say it so that people listen to it, that’s a whole other bag. And unless you get out and you try to do it, you’ll never know. That’s just the truth. And there’s one reason we’re supposed to be here is to say something so people want to hear. Don’t you understand what I’m trying to tell you?” Jack tells Ally.
The wisdom of not letting a talent be lost because we are afraid to show what we have and to say what we have to say. She needed him to have the courage to say what she had to say but she had it all within her. He did not just stop there, he reminded her that the truth and how she sees it and how she believes it is all that matters.
“If you don’t dig deep into your f****’ soul you won’t have legs. I’m just telling you that. If you don’t tell the truth out there, you’re f**ed. All you got is you and what you have to say to people and they are listening right now, and they are not going to be listening forever. Trust me. So, you gotta grab it and you don’t apologise or worry about why they’re listening or how long they’re gonna be listening for. You just tell them what you want to say.”
Their first song together was beautiful, how he encouraged her and led her to her words to be voiced to the world, how hesitant she was then when her heart started to speak the words, it did not matter how many pair of eyes were focusing on her and if she was being judged or not.
But what was most beautiful in all this, was not how the voices, the music and performance was, but how the story tells that they have accepted each other, they committed to each other that they chose to be in it together, all of it. He did not control her and let her shine even when her light became stronger than his. And she did not leave him and pursue higher roads without him even though she had the choice, and she could probably do without him once everyone learnt how good she was. She did not leave him, and she did not get angry with him even when he made a show of her big day with his drunken attitude, and she genuinely worried for him and he mattered to her more than all the glory or the shame.
They were two both strong and weak people who held each other hands to step up and though he let her go by choosing to commit suicide, he left her with a song of his love, and they gave us a performance on what kind commitment makes of life.
Highly recommended. Not the drinking or the suicide part though!
https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1517451/characters/nm0177896
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